To Include Friends and Family, or Keep it an Intimate Experience?

By Carly Hall, The Proposal Guru

Choosing to include friends and family in your Proposal? It’s a common question we get asked and it’s something people toy with when planning to propose. Do we keep it intimate and private, or have close friends and family there to celebrate the moment?

Here's our thoughts!

​It’s a moment that you and your partner will remember forever, but how do you wish to remember it? Exclusively with your partner, or do you open it up and share the love with your close friends and family?
 
It’s a common question we approach with every single engagement proposal.  Getting the balance right can be a challenge. 

Do you and your partner like sharing intimate moments together, private celebrations between just the two of you?
 
Or are you the sort of couple that enjoys large catch-ups, involve friends and family often in celebrations and would feel as though the experience would be enhanced with those close people? 

Ultimately what would your partner love most? Partners looking to propose typically approach popping the question from their own perspective. However, flipping your perspective and viewing the experience through your partner's eyes is one of the most important elements to consider.  
 
Some partners feel overwhelmed with having people watch you propose. That feeling of pressure or embarrassment may be too much and dampen the experience. 

​On the other hand, after being proposed to, partners often wish to share their news with their loved ones straight away. How exciting for close friends and family to be there not only to be there but to actively share in the experience.

We also ask you to think about the type of proposal you are planning and whether it’s something that would naturally include other people. Having a public flashmob would be able to include friends and family quite naturally, as it would happen in a public forum. An intimate dinner for two at a restaurant may make it harder (but not impossible) to conceal.
 
The key elements to consider include:
 
1.    What the sort of couple you are you?
2.    What style of proposal are you planning?
3.  What is your partners perspective, when you think about the proposal experience through their eyes?
 
If you’re still unsure we recommend doing both! An intimate, private event with a celebration organised for after the proposal. A safe and guaranteed winner!
 
We love exploring these questions with partners in the planning stages of their proposal. We have seen every type of partner, from the extraverts to the introverts. The private proposals through to the city-stoppers!
 
We welcome you to contact us and begin the journey through one of the most exciting moments of your lives!

Happy Proposing!

Carly Hall
​The Proposal Guru
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